Wishing Well Wording

A question I get asked a lot is how do I politely word the fact I want money, and not cotton sheets from my guests? Although expensive Egyptian cotton sheets are super lovely, if like most brides of today, you have been living in sin with your partner for eons already, you pretty much have all your linen needs sorted.

Couples always feel weird asking for gifts or money. But it is a fact – you have a wedding, you are going to get presents. Some of these presents are going to be amazingly thoughtful items that you will treasure for years to come. But there will be some items that you receive that are literally ‘Do you even know me?’ And you have to store this… err… weird green glass vasey/plate thingy that you will never use, but you need to keep in case the giver ever visits.

My advice to all my couples is, clearly spell out what you want and include it with your invitations. A gift registry with Country Road, a Honeymoon Fund with Flight Centre, an Online Register or a Wishing Well at your reception, your guests will not be offended (minus perhaps your grandmother) and if anything, you have made their busy lives easier.

Personally, I love the fact my friends include gift details for the wedding. Saves me time and it saves them from any weird green glass vasey/plate thingy infiltrating their lives.

So how do you word it?

There are oodles of poems out there that help take the awkwardness out of it all, and I have listed below a few of my (less cheesy) favourites . Honestly though, I don’t think you can go wrong with a sweet message from the bride and groom about where the money will go – house deposit, renovations or a trip of a lifetime. Your guests will feel honoured they are contributing to something special.

Have a gander through some alternate wordings. I hope you find something that you can use.

Oh and if you really want that green glass vasey/plate thingy, you can have mine!



To save you looking, shopping and buying,
Here is an idea we hope you’ll like trying!
Come to our wedding to wish us both well,
And make some use of our little wishing well.
Just put some money into a card,
Now make a wish…. See, that wasn’t hard!
Now that we have saved you all of the fuss,
We hope that you will come and celebrate with us!

Many of our guests have enquired
for a gift idea to be inspired.
Like many young couples today,
we have a lot of things anyway.
If you would like to give, it is our request,
for something for our treasure chest.
A gift of money you can afford,
is just what we need, you can be assured!
Without the help of this little pun,
our honeymoon might not be as much fun

Your presence at our wedding is present enough.
But if we’re honoured with a gift from you
May we respectfully request a gift of money
To help the building of our dream home come true!

Our two families have come together as one.
We really hope you can join in the fun.
A wishing well we thought would be great,
but only if you wish to participate.
A gift of money is placed in the well,
then make a special wish, but do not tell!
Please do not be offended by our request,
as our day is complete having you as a guest.

If finding a gift is hard to do
our wishing well is just for you!
A gift of money is placed in the well,
then make a wish but do not tell!
If it is however a gift you find,
please feel assured we will not mind. 

We made a commitment some time ago
that together through life we were destined to go.
The tradition of the wishing well used on the wedding day,
is a gesture for your contribution and for what you would like to say.
So please drop in a token of love for this special bride and groom,
that they may put towards their honeymoon.

If you’re thinking of giving a gift,
to help us on our way.
A contribution towards our honeymoon
would really make our day.

While wedding presents are so nice,
your presence surely will suffice.
But if you wish to give a gift as well,
please contribute to our wishing well.



Your love, laughter and company on our wedding day is the greatest gift of all. But if you wish to honour us with a gift, a contribution towards our Italian honeymoon would be much appreciated.
You will be helping us to create amazing memories that will last a lifetime.

Your love, laughter and company are the most special gifts we could receive. However if you wish to follow with tradition and honour us with a wedding gift, a wishing well will be available on the day for your thoughts and best wishes.

Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift of all. However, should you wish to help us celebrate with a gift, a wishing well will be available at the reception for your contribution and best wishes.

Your presence on our special day is the greatest gift we could ask for and we are not expecting anything beyond your well wishes. But if you feel it necessary to commemorate the occasion, we are welcoming contributions towards our honeymoon and wish list via an online registry.

Your love, laughter and company at our wedding is the greatest gift of all. However should you wish to help us celebrate with a gift, we have registered a gift list with {Registry Name}. We hope that this registry will make it more convenient for you to select something that you know we will love.


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